Would you be upset???

[knottravesty]

I love my girlfriend very much, Today was her birthday. I bought her some $200 straightener for her hair. We'll guess how much I actually seen her today..... AN HOUR AND A HALF... Thats it..... She slept till like 3:15 or so... I was running errands from 3-5. I come home and After the Hour and a half I have to take her to work... THEN AFTER Work... shes going out with her friends... while I stay home.. I'm pretty upset over this... Would you be. I mean on my birthday I want to spend it with the one I love and go out to dinner or something.... Not her... She'd rather be away from me. Ehhhh... OK i feel a little better now. Just wanted to know your guys' opinion.

[05xd]

I'd say go out by yourself of with some friends and say F-it!I hate when women do that crap.If you did it to her,she would be all pissed off and whatnot.Eye for an Eye my friend

[alienman]

I agree with 05xd... if you did that to her she would flip... so go out have a good time and make sure you get home after her.....then she'll be the one wondering where you are.....unless she doesn;t come home then i dunno what to tell you....

[slow 2K2GT]

agree go out with the boys, drink it up! Two can play that game. OR Look her in the eye and say "WOMAN! Now just you listen here, theres a few things I got on my mind and we's gonna do them...understand? Dont make me use the muscle!"

[Mr. Dan]

Dump her, she doesn't love you. If she spends more time with her friends one her birthday, they are more important to her than you are. You can do better. Drop her like a bad habit. Too bad you had to spend so much on her birthday present first.

[BlackElantraGT]

Dump her, she doesn't love you. If she spends more time with her friends one her birthday, they are more important to her than you are. You can do better. Drop her like a bad habit. Too bad you had to spend so much on her birthday present first.

I'm with Mr. Dan on this one.

I don't know how long you've been with your girlfriend, but it doesn't sound like she's into you as much as you are into her.

It's fine to go out with your friends to celebrate your birthday, but they don't come before the ones you love, like your family or your significant other. Did she even invite you to come party with all of them? If not, she's just using you.

At some point, most people will either have been used, or been the user themself in a relationship. This sounds like the beginning of one of those relationships.

I don't think Mr. Dan and I are trying to hurt you or offend you in anyway, but sometimes people are too blind to see the truth when they're in love with someone. But you're the one who knows her and we are only going off of what you've told us so far, so for all you know we could be wrong.

BTW, wasn't your gf the stripper? Or was that someone else that posted pics of their stripper gf.

[2loud2k2xd]

my EX used to have a girls night out 2x a month. i called it ho's night out. lol.
in anyother circumstance other than a B-day, it would have been cool with me. but NOT if it was her B-day. F' that. go out with the boys and do it up right. get all lit and talk to her tomorrow about it. tell her that was bullish.

[evan938]

i say dont stress yourself out over it, caus there will be a couple 24 packs when you come to columbus next week, and i think we should kill them while night sledding!

[03SilverBullet]

Dump her, she doesn't love you. If she spends more time with her friends one her birthday, they are more important to her than you are. You can do better. Drop her like a bad habit. Too bad you had to spend so much on her birthday present first.
i would tell her how you feel and then see what she has to say be4 u even think about leaving her.

[knottravesty]

Well its almost two years on the realationship and theres alot more going on than that... I'm kinda being trampled on because I let her get away with almost anything... This just wasnt my cup of tea though... really upset me this time. I'm giving her one last chance, as I just told her last night. Thing is when she called me... It's like she doesnt even care my feelings are hurt about the situation. It just flys right over her head like ..."OK I'm good now"... and thats it. I always tell her straight up all my problems that I have with our realationship because I would like it to be the best that it can be and to me Communication is very close to Number 1. I don't know.. just wanted your guys' opinions about the whole B-day situation... She seems to think nothings wrong with it. Thats what bothers me the most I guess. Yes she is the stripper, thats not really a problem at all... Some extra things that dont got along with that came though lol... Ehhh we all have problems with realationships sometimes... but its gettin to the point where I'm just not as happy as I used to be... I'm always depressed over it. She's only got one more chance, Because I do love her. But after that last chance is up... I got to make myself happy and not keeping myself down all the time. Thanks for the input it helps when 100% of everyone I talked to is on my side.

[CTele02]

Eh... if you miss seeing her so much... just head down to the strip bar... be the guy that tips her the most so shes got all her attention on you... you're gonna spend your money on her anyway.

[03SilverBullet]

dood go out and spend ALOT of time without here for about a week or 2 and see what she has to say, dont let this just sit in the back of your mind or hope ONE MORE CHANCE will work. you need to have a serious talk with her and tell her you arent happy with things in your relationship.

[alienman]

make sure during this last chance you are giving her that you show a few of her stripper friends how great of a guy you are too... And that you are really sweet and caring... then if it doesn;t work out you can get the sympathy factor plus you end up knowing some other hot stripper girls which could lead to the relationship for you with a super hot stripper girl....Gotta always stay one step ahead of the situation...

[SuperGLS]

I'm no good for relationship advice, but $200 on a birthday present? I'd take it back and get her a $25 gift card to Walmart, take that!

(I've barely spent over $200 on my girlfriend this Christmas and we've been going out for 4 years now).

[Cypher]

you gotta remember that young people are stupid and like to spend money (thats me!)... i defintely say talk to her and see what she has to say. i spent like $70 on jess and we haven't been dating long... my friend who has been dating this girl a year is spending 300 bux on her for xmas on a ring!!! thats just crazy!! umm anyway yeah shaun talk to jess

[ba_feitl]

I'm no good for relationship advice, but $200 on a birthday present? I'd take it back and get her a $25 gift card to Walmart, take that!

(I've barely spent over $200 on my girlfriend this Christmas and we've been going out for 4 years now).


Exactley ... return it and give her an el-cheap-o gift card. And be sure to tell her that her good gift was returned to buy her gift more in keeping with her commitment and caring for you. :)

Brad

[ArunSenior04]

Well, Shaun I can almost see why she is going out. For her birthday, you wanted to stay in the house. Instead, IMO you should have planned to do something with her like take her out a nice restaurant, etc etc.

[BlkElntraDrvr]

Yeah dood. To be honest with you from what you are telling, thats really just the type of girl she is. And to be honest with you I have NO idea how the hell you put up with that. I'm the kind of guy that needs LOTS of attention from a girl, or else I am not happy. I think you are doing the right thing though ;) :redface: , the last chance. Be straight up about it, tell her exactly how you feel and that you are not happy, chances are, from what you are tellling me, that she is probably going to end up saying "well honey thats the way I am and I can't change that...blah blah blah..." I think you are just gonna have to let go :( I know it sucks...been there done that. But let us know what happens...

[yamaha]

Shaun, you need to grow a private part (edited for WW) and suck it up. And gain some weight too. You love her though so it will work out.

[GodisintheTV]

i wish my girl was like that, i spend most of my time trying to get away from her for a little while. your a lucky man, i dont know what your *****ing about.

and you guys are cheap lol, ive been with my girl for about a year and a half and i spent over $400 on her for x-mas. she spent about the same one me. i just took one of my paychecks from work and pretty much just dumped it on her.

[skeetre]

I spent over $700 on mine last year, we had been together for about 7-8 months. This year I've already spent about $300+ and I plan to spend about 750-1000 more. I mean, if I spend $6000-7000 on the car.. I figure I better at least get her something nice for Christmas :)

[03SilverBullet]

Ok listen to me, a relationship is NOT based on how much you spend on eachother, of course nice gifts are a good thing but its not all what a relationship is.

[skeetre]

and you guys are cheap lol, ive been with my girl for about a year and a half and i spent over $400 on her for x-mas. she spent about the same one me. i just took one of my paychecks from work and pretty much just dumped it on her.

I was just trying to say I'm not cheap :) If your girl just wants you for your money, then yeah, ditch her.

[evan938]

Shaun....And gain some weight too....


hahahaha. so true. damn kid had like 4 fries and a milkshake at dinner this weekend and couldnt eat anymore.

and yes, you are considered "kid" until you break the 115lb mark and stop shopping in the 10 year old section :D:D:D:D


:abovelol: :abovelol: :abovelol:

[FoxyLilPirate]

heres a girl jumping in to this one.
first off, i think its great that shes a stripper and your ok with that, alot of guys would get very jealous and the fact that you dont give her hell over being a stripper she should consider herself very lucky to have a good guy.
secondly i think its great that she does spend time with her frineds and hope youd hav eno prpblem with this...however i agree, while on your birthday its nice to do seomthing other than stay home...the fact that she'd rather spend it with her frineds than you bothers me.
birthdays are for the ones you love, if after tlaking with them and there working or somehting then fine make plans with frineds so your not spending the birthday alone...but to have a boyfrined who wants to spend the time with you on your birthday and she ditches you...hell no, just not working!
sounds like she walks all over you and you obviously love her enough to let her, but comming from a female, ill give you this little bit of info...let her trample on you now, shes always going to do it, just telling her change or ill leave you will do nothing...she knows that youve let her get away with this and will always because you love her. and truth be told, i got a feeling shed put up a fuss about you leaving but not realy care...
if your hot enough to get a stripper as a girlfriend then you got no worries, id say dump the ungreatfull one and find a girl who apreciates you...
and ill also have to agree, any girl worth your time doesnt care how much you spend on her so long as you put some thought into the gift...
i know if i had a b/f id much prefer to spend my birthday with him than friends i can see anyday/time.
she could have at least asked if you wanted to come along or somehting...for all she knew you were planning a nice suprise for her or something...

id say go hang out with your frineds, hell to what she thinks or says and find a girl worth your time.

[03SilverBullet]

enough with this thread, its making me sick. Just the fact that you had to come on XD for relationship advice is bad enough. Im not trying to be a dick dood and I hope you believe me but if this is still bothering you then do something about it and talk to her or just leave her! or just deal with it! No female/male is worth getting this worked up over. Take it from me I have learned my lesson with past relationships.

Rob

[knottravesty]

Well put it this way.... I SPEAK AGAIN lol... This thread has surprisingly developed. I really didn't come here for advice.... I came here for opinions. I knew what and how I was going to handle this before I came on here. I do very much love her. We have a lot together and it would be hard to part. I have been giving her way to many chances. But no one can put a number of chances givin on something they care about so much. Yes I'm only 19 years old. So everyone tells me... YOUR TOO YOUNG, ENJOY YOURSELF.... I do enjoy myself, when I'm with her. This one thing is only part of whats been going on. I'm trying so hard to make this work b/c I've worked to hard up to this point to just let it drop. It's not just some girl ive been with a couple months that I think I'm going to be with forever. Its a beautiful girl that I've been with Two Years, bought a brand new car, got a first appartment to ourselves 3 hours away from anyone we really knew, and tons of other stuff I could not just throw away. Yes I am being walked on, and yes I'm crazy for still trying over and over. Most of the times I feel that She doesn't know shes hurting me so bad. She wasn't raised the same way as I. But I do tell her that she is and its like she just shrugs it off. She tells me she loves me and goes on with what she was doing before. If she didn't love me, I probably wouldn't be here anyways. Why would you keep someone around that makes 1/5 of what you do if you didn't care for them. Thank you to all who participated in this thread. It makes me realize that I'm not crazy and that I should feel the way I do. I'm still hoping everything will turn out alright. If not, I'm sure I'll find someone else, Just don't want to yet.

[2loud2k2xd]

heres a really great idea man. have her read this thread. yes i said "have her read this thread". this thread is saying to people how you feel about her and the situation. let her read this, she will see how she's hurting you, and the way you feel about this situation and also the way you feel about her. she will read how you much you care for her, and at the same time she will realize how you truely feel. there are something you can share with people you know and dont know (on here at exd), that you really cant share with the one you care about. the things you wrote on here are from your heart and sometimes the things we (guys) try and say to our g/f sometimes just come out the right way. and vice versa.

just let her read this thread. i bet it will help her in seeing how you feel about the B-day issue and other issues that have been going on (if any).

i hope this helps a bit. im dating a psychiatrist (dont even say it evan, lol), we both have read this (i hope you didnt mind), and her and i agree that this might help the situation by letting her read this.

alright man, im done. i just dont like to see a fellow guy go thru some **** like this. im 28, trust me ive been thru my fair share of beigh f'd over by girls i was in love with. time heals everything. and good communication is always the key in any relationship. one more thing. it seems like you love her tremendously, and she loves you the same. if thats the case, there should be anything you 2 could talk about with out the other person getting defensive and upset. you two should be able to sit down and work this out with a very happy outcome. if not, then it was not ment to be(for the long term).

hope this can help ya out a bit man.
dave
&
the shrink (kelli) :D

[evan938]

maybe if you gained some weight, it would make your penis seem bigger and she'll stick around more.

all kidding aside, i did think it was pretty ****ty she didnt come over to seans on new years and just stayed over @ ginas. oh well. columbus is gettin nice this time of year :)

i hope this helps a bit. im dating a psychiatrist (dont even say it evan, lol),

funny....when i saw that, i was sorta like.....what the ****...then i read where you said 'dont say anything evan'

howd you manage to pull that one off? she feel sorry for you laying on the couch babbling on to her?

[2loud2k2xd]

funny....when i saw that, i was sorta like.....what the ****...then i read where you said 'dont say anything evan'

howd you manage to pull that one off? she feel sorry for you laying on the couch babbling on to her?

cause i know you would have said something funny...but stupid. lol
how did i pull that off????dude, im a freak. wemon love the piercings man.

[evan938]

wemon? is that the british cousin of the dwarf from jackass and wildboyz?

knocking a girl out with a hammer in a dark alley and holding her hostage for months does not count as a "relationship" :)

[2loud2k2xd]

wemon? is that the british cousin of the dwarf from jackass and wildboyz?

knocking a girl out with a hammer in a dark alley and holding her hostage for months does not count as a "relationship" :)

so i dont know how to spell wemon(sp) whatever. i didnt want to say/type chicks (cause girls get offended when guys call them chicks).

and knocking a girl out with A hammer....or MY hammer? lmoa. what did you mean. :D please dont answer that.

back OT: sorry

[ArunSenior04]

Kinda off topic, but I dont thinhk I could see you Dave with a psychiatrist, from what I kno about you. I always thought of you dating some hardcore crazy woman, riding off in to the sunset at 110MPH, blaring rave music.

[knottravesty]

Dave it was a good idea no doubt... But she read it about 3 weeks back or so when *someone on here told her about it*... Even know I knew she would find it b/c shes on here as much as me reading and junk. She didnt react that well actually. She was just about to type a message saying how you guys were dicks or w/e. I stopped her from doing that by telling her that its not your guys' fault you were just being truthful and showing her what everyone else thinks about the situation. It helped a bit. But in many ways not at all. She was more pissed then worried about my feelings. She's got this thing where when we have "a talk" the next she goes on like nothing happened. Her answer is always "I don't know". Don't get much input back from her. But at the same time I shouldn't expect her to have ALL the answers. Just the ones she needs to know. I mean. I can't speak for everyone, but when i do an action or something in particular. I always have a reason... and if not.. then I can come up with one real quick. It's still rough and I expect it to always go up and down. I just wish it'd stay up for more than a week.

[ArunSenior04]

My advice: When she comes home from work next time. Start playing a good song. Say Laffy Taffy. Bust out into that dance while screaming out "Girl, shake that laffy taffy."

The above advice is not recommended for use against your girlfriend, mother, or any other person relating to the word , girl or female..

[03SilverBullet]

Dont have her read this thread, if I posted a relationship problem on a public forum like this and asked my girl to read it she would say "your a asshole and why does the world need to know our bizz." Handle your bizz and check your woman yourself, im sorry if I sound like a *** bro but im really not trying to be.

[2loud2k2xd]

Kinda off topic, but I dont thinhk I could see you Dave with a psychiatrist, from what I kno about you. I always thought of you dating some hardcore crazy woman, riding off in to the sunset at 110MPH, blaring rave music.

she is a freak. she has more tatts than me (all covered by clothes, but no piercings), she's into the same music. and i can turn her into a real freak like me real soon:D she's getting another tatt tomorrow for her B-day. but she doesnt like techno..:( thats the only downfall. she's not your ordinary shrink, she's actaully really cool and sweet. latex body paint is in our future. ill be painted in red, she'll be painted in black:D ohhh, i cant wait. FUN times.

knott...i hate to say this, but the reaction you said she had, i would leave her man. i am a person who would rather try and work things out till the cows come home....but obviously she doesnt feel the same in the relationship as you do. dont keep putting yourself thru this. take it from me. it WILL only make you more upset and maby make you do stupid things. try taking a break, let her see what she's missing. if that doesnt work, end it. it was never meant to be. there are many girls out there, most of them want asshole guys, but a few actaully are looking for a great guy to treat them well. find you one of those girls. or just treat her like ****, some girls ive dated like being treated like ****. i for one dont like to treat people (let alone girls i like) like crap. respect for one another in a relationship IS KEY to any good relationship.

later
dave

[evan938]

she is a freak. she has more tatts than me (all covered by clothes, but no piercings), she's into the same music. and i can turn her into a real freak like me real soon:D she's getting another tatt tomorrow for her B-day. but she doesnt like techno..:( thats the only downfall. she's not your ordinary shrink, she's actaully really cool and sweet. latex body paint is in our future. ill be painted in red, she'll be painted in black:D ohhh, i cant wait. FUN times.


TMI Dave. TMI.

[yamaha]

If Dave is a dating psychiatrist, then Evan is the king of flogging the bishop.

[evan938]

if dave is dating a psychiatrist, then i really did hook up with seans g/f this weekend.


twice

:D

[yamaha]

Evan, I'm out of your league, o snap, you were talking about brenna, then she's out of your universe.

[knottravesty]

lol... They seemed to be in the same universe while I was there... I can vouch for both times lol...

[evan938]

Pwn3d!!!

[ArunSenior04]

Lol at you three. Everyone knows shes digging (yes I said digging) the short young-looking black guy that is ME. :)

[KeWLKaT]

Why is it that you're the only one that never has any problems with women, evan?

Then again, how can you have problems with something you have never had! :eek:

LOL JWFY

[jeffv1970]

Shaun,
The most important thing to find out is does she really want this relationship?
I just went through something like this. Basicly my relationship slowly fell apart due to not communicating. If you love this woman like you say in this thread. I recommend one thing. Set a day for the two of you to talk. You need to find out where this is going, or if it is going anywhere.
If she wants this relationship you both need common ground. Come up with some agreed rules ( for lack of a better word), so you both have a good understanding of one another thoughts and respect each other.

I wish you the best in this and hope it works out like you want. But if it does'nt, remember out there is a woman that will love and respect you for who you are. Don't go looking for it just let it come to you.

Good Luck
Jeff

[2loud2k2xd]

evan pwned by felix :D

and evan, the reason you dont have any woman problems is...well youve never had a woman. lol and your hand DOES not count. neither hand. lol
evan, you are like sprite and caffiene...never had it..never will. :D :D

oh, i almost forgot, when you come to detroit fro the auto show, go to canada. they have hookers that will come to your room..leagally:)

[Cypher]

ouch... stop raggin on evan guys lol dave you need to take him out to meet some freaky girls ;)

[yamaha]

ouch... stop raggin on evan guys lol dave you need to take him out to meet some freaky girls ;)

Guess you didnt get the memeo, Dave is Evan's freaky girl. :abovelol:

[jeffv1970]

Guess you didnt get the memeo, Dave is Evan's freaky girl. :abovelol:
Ouch you guys are bad.

Evan, I be glad when you find a nice girl so you can shut them up. :D

[knottravesty]

Yeah I didn't help last time did I Evan lol... Set him up with a bad one lol..

[evan938]

I wouldnt really say that was your fault. just the fact that shes up on that high chair and must be a squirrell on your nuts. like i said, if you do break up with jess (not saying i hope that happens at all) and move back to ohio, you can date her.

too much for me

but it was a good weekend....:D:D

[knottravesty]

nah im good.. wouldnt touch it lol...

[evan938]

hind sight is always 20/20 lol

[2loud2k2xd]

Guess you didnt get the memeo, Dave is Evan's freaky girl. :abovelol:

ouch!!! lol and he wishes.
ill remember that one :D

and if evan was 21, i could take him to ALOT of what detroit has to offer when it comes to clubs. as long as he drinks in moderation, and he doesnt puke on or in my car. not that he has done that...yet. lol maby ill make a call to my friend who works at city club. FREAK fest every weekend there. girls walking around in nothing but latex body paint. :D :D :D