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robs02elantra
02-03-2006, 11:11 PM
Ok, this is going to be one of the better flames that you find on here.

I work at a company that I will not name, but they look after Mentally Handicapped individuals. They are all put into houses, where they live full time, and there are four different shifts so that there is always at least 2 staff in the house (except between 9pm and 7:30am when there is just one person.) Anyway, at the moment I'm here alone, waiting for the 11pm person to come in.

I must preface this by saying that 2 our of the 5 individuals in this house are unstable to a point where they get violent if they can't have something. That's fine you say, just give them what they want, they are grown up people. That would be great, but none of the people in this house can talk, at all. They can't tell us what they want or need, so we have to guess most of the time.

I have got everyone to bed, except one person. Not the young lady who bit me in the stomach the other week...she's doing great this week, happy and fun. This is another older lady. She is currently upstairs screaming (how you ask, because screaming includes using your voice box, and if you can't use it the rest of the time, how come you can scream with it...answer, I'VE GOT NO BLOODY IDEA! and it scares the hell out of me.

So, without going into detail, because medical histories and medical things are personal and private, when this individual is upset, she needs medication to calm her down. That's fine, apart from that she doesn't ever just take stuff, you have to hide it in things like applesauce. Another thing, she doesn't like to have stuff like that when she's this upset. She just likes getting really violent. Including biting.

So when the time came that I had to start trying to give her this medicine, she won't take it. I'm a genius and I like to think that I think, but sometimes I put my job before me, and when that happens, I end up with my finger in the mouth of a disabled person, who is definately unstable at the moment, unstable enough that I wouldn't normally be within 10 feet of her for fear of being beaten, bloody, and at least having been attempted to be bitten once. I bet that you can all guess what happened. My finger feels like I put it in one of those car wreckers. She has one hell of a bite.

This is a normal day at work for me. It also includes all of the things that they can't do for themselves. Changing diapers, cleaning messes, helping them eat. Just that when it gets violent and you are trying to protect them first and foremost...but your instinct says to protect yourself...what do you do? Man, this job scares the **** out of me sometimes.

(I don't usually swear, and I apologize that I had to use the language, but it's a scary place). I do have to say in closing, that these people can be absolutely fantastic, they can be happy and we generally have a great time with them. Just not always the case. You and I get angry as well...we just know what social norms are.

BColeman
02-03-2006, 11:21 PM
I don't envy you at all. It takes a special kind of person to work with and for disabled people. I've had a few experiences with autistic children while working for Stride Rite (children's shoe store) right out of high school. At first, I found it to be a little scary, even with the parent there. Overtime though, I warmed up to it, and looked at it as a challenge.

Of course, my experiences and your current situation are light years apart. All I can say is keep doing the job you are doing. The world needs more people like you who aren't "afraid" of taking care of others. I could never do your job, as I'd spend most of the time crying for these people.

Sorry to hear about your finger, hope it feels better. Good luck and God bless.

Estopatitiana
02-03-2006, 11:31 PM
wow dude, i dont know how you do it every day, but props to ya, i can relate to a communication barrier bc both my parents in the last year had severe strokes and can no longer speak....so its like playing sharades the whole time, you really have to become a thinker/problem solver, and after that i swore id never enter another hospital or nursing home..ever
i learned alot about self injuriose bahavior in my psychology classes.its horrible...and its good that you dont seem to lose your patients around them, wich makes you the right person for the job,

robs02elantra
02-03-2006, 11:42 PM
well, the first thing that we learned in our training (all that time ago) was that we are no better than anyone else. The time that we start to believe that we are, is when the possability of us losing our cool comes into play because we think "well, if we're more patient than the masses, then now must be the right time to go off the handle." Where there never is a right time. So, thank you, but I'm not anything special. Also, a second thanks goes out to all the great people on this site. Without having a group of awesome people like you guys and gals (all of you) who share a common interest, that also doesn't expect anything from me, I don't know how I could deal with this all. I saw a guy beat himself blind the other week. Just to say, thanks to everyone. It's a rough day (or night, depending on the shift), but it's easier when I know I've got this place to come to when I'm done.

Esto. I am very sorry to hear that. You never know what the other people on the site are like, or what they are going through. I've got a lot more respect for you (not that I didn't before, but I didn't really know you before.) This is different as a job, it's hard, and yes I do shed a tear sometimes, very infrequently...but if it were a family member. This now needs to be moved out of the flame section, because my job just became a whole lot easier.

yamaha
02-04-2006, 12:04 AM
You should be able to tazer their asses. That will teach them

Seinster
02-07-2006, 11:47 PM
I can appreciate your situation Rob. I have visited those types of places and been in close contact with mentally handicapped people who are unstable and violent at times.
It's pretty damn scary but I guess your job would be rewarding as well, hang in there mate.

Sorry to hear about your situation Estopatitiana, that's a very tough one.

03SilverBullet
02-07-2006, 11:49 PM
I hate working, it sucks and I wanna win the lottery or be some dumb rapper who has no education and make 1.5 million a year.

But.... I work at a deli and go to college full time and untill I graduate and become a pilot I will be a cold cut slut.

Vampyrate
02-08-2006, 12:10 AM
didnt you quit that deli job? lol

any way, i think i have one of the easiest "jobs" ever. I get paid to live on campus.

03SilverBullet
02-08-2006, 12:13 AM
didnt you quit that deli job? lol

any way, i think i have one of the easiest "jobs" ever. I get paid to live on campus.
I quit that deli job and got another in a week, haha.

Vampyrate
02-08-2006, 12:14 AM
wow... so would you say that you are a "meat" monkey? jfwy

03SilverBullet
02-08-2006, 12:15 AM
wow... so would you say that you are a "meat" monkey? jfwy
Im the cold cut slut since I was 17.

robs02elantra
02-08-2006, 09:54 AM
Something small to add now, that I will expand on later. I work with only women. I am the only guy.

I'm heading out now to a team meeting, they are supposed to go from 9-11...they always go from 9-12:30, it's good to get the extra pay, but it's like THE VIEW they all talk over each other, and even when an issues outcome has been decided on, one of the women has to bring it back up again, just because they can. It's so frustrating I want to gnaw my face off so that I can get out of the meeting!!!!!

DAILLESTWUN
02-08-2006, 11:32 AM
I commend you for what you do. It takes a lot of patience and a good heart to do what you do. It's true, there should be more people like you around.... Mad props to you!!!

robs02elantra
02-08-2006, 02:10 PM
I commend you for what you do. It takes a lot of patience and a good heart to do what you do. It's true, there should be more people like you around.... Mad props to you!!!


For working with women, or mentally handicapped people? I think that the former is definately more trying than the latter. Hahah

Vampyrate
02-08-2006, 03:11 PM
think of it this way... at the end of the night, you know exactly what not to say to your girl to set her off like them

900Z1
02-08-2006, 08:29 PM
You should be able to tazer their asses. That will teach them

You read my mind... :D

Estopatitiana
02-08-2006, 09:12 PM
You should be able to tazer their asses. That will teach them


yeah and then you have to tell the family that you used a device that can bring down a full grown angus bull..on thier mentally handicapped loved one

Gun5
02-08-2006, 09:13 PM
yeah and then you have to tell the family that you used a device that can bring down a full grown angus bull..on thier mentally handicapped loved one




yeah and then you have to tell the family that you used a device that can bring down a full grown angus bull..on thier mentally handicapped loved one

id do it.. get sued real quick what they should do is lock them up not your prob if they get violent they arnt paying u that much

03SilverBullet
02-08-2006, 09:13 PM
yeah and then you have to tell the family that you used a device that can bring down a full grown angus bull..on thier mentally handicapped loved one
I shouldent laugh at this but im going to.







hahahahahahhahaha :D

Vampyrate
02-08-2006, 09:18 PM
^agreed, something about full grown angus bull and mentally handicapped loved one in one sentence makes me laugh