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Vampyrate
02-08-2006, 02:26 AM
First: Sorry if I ramble, I have a lot on my mind that I need to get off. Mods, if you find this pointless in anyway, please delete. I'm not looking for pitty or anything, but I just have to get this out.

Okay, here it goes:
As you all have probably read, I have been having issues with my bank. With trying to deal with them and many other sources, I managed to get 1 of seven over draft fees taken back, but that still leaves over $200US to be disputed. With my current job as an RA on campus I make $170.90 every two weeks. That means in a month and a half, I will finally be making spendable money again. Sucks right? I know.

Well, las semester in school was no fun for me. I suffered a major drop in my grades (0.723 for the semester GPA). I had a full course load of 17credit hours and failed all but 3 classes out of 7. The reason you may ask is simple. The one person in the world that meant more to me than even myself passed away, my grandmother. She was having complications and died while in a Cleveland hospital. In a sense, I was relieved. In her 2 bedroom house, there lived 8 other of my relatives. There was only one bathroom, and my grandmother raised at least 20 children in that house (many of which were grandchildren and great nephews and nieces). Learning of this in September really affected me. I didn't tell anyone in my fraternity, no one back home (including Gena), and no one here on campus. I stopped going to many of my classes and lost all will to go on. I normally am neat freak when it comes to the condition of my living courters, and even now, my room is still a mess.

On top of that, when I thought that I was just about to move on, this bank issue happens where someone got into my account and stole money from me causing this huge drama. What a great year I guess. At least better than my first year in college, where my 2 best friends were killed in a horrific car accident after seeing one of the plays that me and a few others were in during my senior year of high school. It took me a year and a half to get over this loss for both were like brothers to me. To add more to this sad story, my dog was put to sleep the week of her birthday (August 27, 2004). She was battling cancer and showed no signs of pain until after I had left for school, or so my father told me. I guess this is one of the reasons why I love Gena so much, for she has had to put up with so many of my depressive ups and downs.

Well, on to more current issues. I'm really stressed out. I am again taking a full course load (18 credit hours this time) and am doing a lot more than I did last year in school. I'm in a high position in my fraternity, the marshall, and an RA. Every week my schedule is littered with meetings leaving only the weekends to actually sit down and do homework (or stay up late nights). I guess this all sort of works out though, for I have insomnia. Currently, I have been up for 52 hours and nothing seems to be working. I've tried Nyquil along with other nonmedicated sleep aids to no avail. Later today (Wed.) I have class from 8am until 4pm with meetings at 1pm and 9pm each lasting 1 to 2 hours. I tried sleeping many nights, but just end up staring at the ceiling or the wall or the clock. Well, I'm tired of just laying there with nothing to do.

So go ahead and label me as a whiny *****, or an emo kid. Frankly, I don't care anymore. I just want to sleep. Sure, on the outside I may appear to be some bright and happy "normal" person, but I'm not. I've tried going to doctors and the such, but the way that I was raised was that if you need to go see a professional for anything less than a phyical injury, you are weak, and there for not a man. Sure, that could go on to more and more on how I grew up in a emotionally neglected household, but I just don't see it that way. I am the youngest of six children (2 brothers and 3 sisters). My father is a Vietnam Veteran and runs a very militaristic family. Anything that happens in my household my mother turns a deaf ear and blind eye. But now that my father is nearing the end of his life, I feel that he is trying to "buy" his way into Heaven (if there is such a place) and constantly tells me over the phone how proud of me he is, and how much he loved me. He never said that when I was growing up. There were many times in my life where my mother did in fact have to break up near fist fights between me and my father, and there were times where I would stand over their bed at night with a knife or a gun and contemplate life without a father. In the past 5 years I've either thought of or attempted suicide at least a dozen or more times, but was too afraid to follow through. Looking back, I'm glad that I haven't because then I would never have the friends that I do today.

Everyday I feel as if more and more of me is dying inside. I know that I have all of you guys for support if I need it emotionally, and I thank you all and am forever indebted to you. Well I feel that I have wasted enough of your time and am sorry for such a long post, but I do feel slightly better that I have gotten this out of my system.

soullesselantra
02-08-2006, 02:31 AM
hey...its not all that bad, you could have been set on fire and beaten by rabid midgets with nerf balls...just remember these words, with time, this too shall pass.

TNT4ME
02-08-2006, 02:35 AM
Ok...
Here is the solution to your insomnia. RUN! I had a VERY good friend of mine go through a lot more than this. Not trying to play down your situation at all. However, the point is he got insomnia REAL bad. Running some where any where, releases endorphins. Not only do these help relax the body, but they also give you clear thought. I would run with my friend at midnight or later some nights. The next day, he would be better rested and thinking more clear.

Try it. You WILL see results. And don't give that running is boring crap either. Put on some headphones if needed. I 99% guarantee if you make this part of your "routine" you will be better off. Even running between classes or to and from the car helps. The more endorphins, the better.

Tim

Vampyrate
02-08-2006, 02:36 AM
i run 3 miles everyday (except weekends) so that doesnt work

TNT4ME
02-08-2006, 02:38 AM
Before bed time is the best. And then a hot shower. Believe it or not.

(damn spelling)

Vampyrate
02-08-2006, 02:40 AM
i do do it at night i start at 10pm and am back by about 10:15 now... but yeah, showers actually help keep me awake when i need to be

soullesselantra
02-08-2006, 02:43 AM
warm milk and a bedtime story? used to work for me

Doohickie
02-08-2006, 02:45 AM
Vamp... no words of wisdom that will help you, but I can offer moral support. I know from what I've seen on these boards that you are a talented guy with a great future, although that may not be apparent to you right now. I'm very impressed by you and if you were interviewing for a position and I was the hiring manager (which I'm not, but just go with it for a minute), I would hire you immediately. You've got drive, and you do things, much more so than a lot of guys your age. It is probably the least interesting thing in your life right now, but you gotta get through your college classes. Do the absolute best you can; I know you're capable.

As far as some of the other time commitments you have, you may need to step down from the frat position. I've been there, at a fraternity that almost folded in the aftermath of a house fire (OUR house, not the college's), and yes, my grades suffered too. As committed as you no doubt are to your fraternity, you also have to stress to them if you don't take care of academics, you won't be there for them in any capacity down the road.

Take care of yourself. Do what's good for you, or you're not good for anybody! I wish you all the best in this challenging point in your life. But KNOW you can do it. (I know you can.)

TNT4ME
02-08-2006, 02:50 AM
Doohickie makes a very good point. You need to prioritize my friend. Frat master does no good on the resume. The GPA, however, does. I lost my mom recently, and went to the alchohol pretty bad. Coming out of that was not fun. You have a good head. Use it. Gather friends, family, whatever it takes to let go and move on. I think you will be surprised that if you let your women in past your emotional walls, she will give you great support.

Married 13 years, she has helped a lot. Hope that helps you out.

Estopatitiana
02-08-2006, 02:57 AM
dude, i can totally freakin relate...it seems like when you go off to cellege all hell breaks loose...ill make my story very short and sweet...freshman year 1st semester..normal, great, i had the "normal college stress" of leaving home etc.....2nd semester..grandma dies...week later dog dies...3 monhts later grandpa dies...few months later uncle dies from stroke...then all seemed ok for junior year....senior year parents finally move into dream house they have been wanting all thier lives but could never afford (on thanksigving day)..same day my mother had a stroke and we spent the night in the e.r. 8 months later.. 2 weeks after he has bought the first and only brand new truck he has ever owned...father has massive stroke..only 3% chance of survival( both parents left with significant brain damage)..once hes awake after 3 week coma..we are run through guantlet with nursing homes rehab/insurance company etc.....all this time im supposed to somehow keep a clear head at college? im like you man..i was a neat freak..now you look at my room its hideos..i went way down hill, i mean way..i was overdrwan almost every week..i used up all of my inherited money for crap, had no morals was rude, hopeless...my gpa went down from a 3.95 to just below a 3.0..., and i need a 3.5 or higher to be "competitive" for vet school....just like you ive failed classes...and currenlty have no job...however.things will get beter only recenlty have i reverted back to my old self, why/how you may ask? well i realized that the people around me care about me alot more than i would think...and i dont want them to worry about me, so i decided to give them reason not to by living a healthy lifestyle and trying to make something of myself through college..my grandparents and parents would and dont want me to sit and wallow in my tears and mourn 24/7 over thier misfortunes...they want me to be succesful and happy, and raise a family and live a nomral happy life...so pick your head up in thier honor..and make them proud..becasue i telling you there is a heaven(and im saying this based on facts+recent evidence i have stumbled upon) if you want to know the source ill be glad to post it but any way..its not the end of the world..dont let it wear you down..rememeber them for who they were and the good parts about thier lives....you are the only person right now that can get yourself out of this hole

dang, i put it all out..

and of course having a supportive woman helps alot

TNT4ME
02-08-2006, 02:57 AM
dang, i put it all out..

Dang man, put it in paragraphs college boy..lol...(jfwy)

Estopatitiana
02-08-2006, 03:01 AM
hey your from colorado springs? my bros fiance went to the academy there..he lives in ft collins...beautiful..pikes peak is fun..lol

Vampyrate
02-08-2006, 03:08 AM
Well, i wish i could do more to put my mind off of things. but i shattered my knee when i was 12 making a sponsorship video for BMX jumping (was about 2months from getting sponsored by both S&M bikes and Standard bikes) and really didnt get "full" strength in my "new" plastic knee when i was 15 and layed in teh hospital for a month with flu and pnemonia.

i also used to play football and was temporarily paralyzed for 6months from repeated concusions/contusions and spinal injuries.

one thing i want most now is for Gena to be here, and to be snowboarding again (havent done that since i was 16)

EDIT: Guys i just want to say thanks again, i never wouldve thought that people would be on at 2am EST and reply so quickly with so many kind words, i must say what what doohickie said in his last post really did mean something to me. i really did feel as if i really had nothing really positive going on in my life, but he snapped that into reality

SuperGLS
02-08-2006, 09:07 AM
What the hell are you doing taking 6-7 classes? If you aren't doing well, cut the class load back, who cares if you are in school for over 4 years, that doesn't matter anymore.

Second, I've been through some pretty crappy times in my life (none which I care to discuss), but I've managed to get through them. Just take it a little bit at a time.

Did I mention you shouldn't be taking so many classes?

Vampyrate
02-08-2006, 09:10 AM
haha, tell that to my parents, they are deadset on my "graduating on time" and refuse to pay for more than 4 years of schooling just to get my BA and BS degrees in English Lit and Psych. No more than 2 years in graduate school, unless i tell them that im going for a doctorate

Doohickie
02-08-2006, 09:29 AM
Vamp.... I'm glad I could help.

Vampyrate
02-08-2006, 09:31 AM
but yeah, 2 classes this semester are pretty much show up and pass classes (we have to take 2 PE classes totalling 1cr hour for two). on MW, i have basketball @ 9am and on TTH i have volleyball where im the only guy in a class of 8 people and 2 girls are on teh school's team and the rest are cheerleaders that have never played.

Seinster
02-08-2006, 12:35 PM
I'm an insomniac, used to be on some pretty heavy ****, but it ****ed me up way too much. Now I just drink caffeine to get me through the days my body feels tired.
I usually get sleep 2-3 hours per day, but sometimes go for 2 days without sleep.
BTW my dad's a US army vietnam vet. as well.

Feel free to PM me any time, coz I can relate to things you posted which I'd rather not post. Stay strong.

Vampyrate
02-08-2006, 02:51 PM
ive gone a total of 78 hours without sleep now and have only taken 1 no doz pill and drank plenty of water. but on a plus, i did eat breakfast for the first time on campus since move in day my freshman year

ArunSenior04
02-08-2006, 04:34 PM
Breakfast is always the best meal in a colleges cafe. Those damn omelats are the best. Tomatoes, Onions, and bacon. MMMMMMmmmmmm......

importdriver05
02-08-2006, 04:46 PM
well vamp, im only like 3 hrs away so if you need a friend ill be glad to come hang out

04GTboySC
02-08-2006, 05:38 PM
ya aaron, wish i was closer to your school i wouldnt mind hanging out but remember me and my family are always here dude keep your chin up it will get better

once i move to south carolina hopefully i will have a big party and you can come to it

KeWLKaT
02-08-2006, 06:18 PM
Damn, i know sometimes it sucks, but think of it... Could be worse. That's how I get through thosebad moments of my life. Just keep some positive attitude and you'll be free of life's little crappy moments in a breath.

Wish I could be close to your area so we could've chilled!

yamaha
02-08-2006, 06:40 PM
I'm really sorry to hear about all your troubles. The only advice I can offer is that it gets worse before it gets better.

SuperGLS
02-08-2006, 08:39 PM
haha, tell that to my parents, they are deadset on my "graduating on time" and refuse to pay for more than 4 years of schooling

I don't want to argue with you, obviously, but, you could pay for it yourself. You are in state, it can't be that much money. I paid (am paying) for all of mine, sure it sucks, but at least you won't have to worry about your family influences.

Vampyrate
02-08-2006, 08:41 PM
the thing that i cant do is pay for it myself, i dont have a job in order to do that, and being an RA wouldn't pay for more than 1/4 of a credit hour's worth of class

Estopatitiana
02-08-2006, 09:10 PM
I don't want to argue with you, obviously, but, you could pay for it yourself. You are in state, it can't be that much money. I paid (am paying) for all of mine, sure it sucks, but at least you won't have to worry about your family influences.


it depends on your major too, and of course your environment(rent etc)



your best bet is scholarships and loans if the folks and a job wont pay for it

Vampyrate
02-08-2006, 09:13 PM
i have 1 scholarship (500 per semester) and im a double major english lit, psychology with a minor in education. thinking of picking up a math minor (im just naturally good at math) or history (again, number related, but i know my dates)...

and holy shizzle batman! i posted this at 1:30 am (dont remember doing it) and i have this many responses... damn you guys are like an over inquizative (sp?) jewish family that lives down the street from my parents

SuperGLS
02-08-2006, 09:36 PM
I meant with loans... I owe over $10,000, which ain't too bad, I guess coming from a non wealthy family had some benefits (some grants that I didn't have to pay back).

Estopatitiana
02-09-2006, 01:16 AM
I meant with loans... I owe over $10,000, which ain't too bad, I guess coming from a non wealthy family had some benefits (some grants that I didn't have to pay back).

yeah not having money helps alot, my roomates dad makes next to nothing..its funny my parents have lots of money and you would think im the poor kid, because he is living in luxury with nice grants+and im the one with food stamps..but maybe spending money on headers and rims doesnt help either, lol

and vamp you should really utilize those math skills, they will get you very far..i suck horribly at math and would love to be good at it, think about it, the greatest minds were the mathmaticians

Soron
02-09-2006, 02:09 AM
Well Vampyrate sounds you have a problem that I had when I was younger, about 12 or so years back (I was 15 or 16 at the time) I wanted to commit suicide myself, the only thing that saved me last second was a Bon Jovi song by the name of "saturday night", that song saved my life and gave me hope to live on as well as inspired me to live my life to be like a knight. I suggest you check it out, it comes in 2 versions, the one that comes on the "crossroads" album is the one that saved my life, however I like the one on the "100,000,000 Bon Jovi fans can't be wrong" compilation set better as it was the unreleased original.

Vampyrate
02-10-2006, 10:37 PM
the thing is, i hate math with a passion, but when im really stressed, it helps to calm me down.

okay a little update, i havent slept since the first post of this and im starting to hallucinate. i dont know what it is, maybe its because im quitting the dip (skoal is getting to be too much for me)

Vampyrate
02-22-2006, 11:32 PM
your kind words really meant something to me, and still do now. but now it seems that there is something different. maybe its because im sick (and have little to no voice) or maybe just that im ****ed in the head. but im really pissed off. i mustarded what little courage that i had in my pussy *** body and went to talk to some people. they went and checked my thyroid (or at least took the blood test) and got a phone call back tonight:
"Mr. Dorsey, we're terribly sorry but it appears that we have dropped your blood sample and need you to come in as soon as possible to take a retest."

I have nothing against needles, I in fact enjoy getting shots and blood taken (i donate regularly). but i dont want to go back there, all those doctors are idiots and need to be shot. they almost killed one of my friends by constantly giving her drugs that gave her an allergic reaction and almost put her into a coma. not only that, but when i broke my ankles last year, they treated it like a ****ing sprain!

anyway, again, i'm sorry for the long post (its my thread, sue me).

Emo Kid Out.