Horrible news w/ sad reaction!!!!

[Tx_boy]

Well lately it has been pretty sad because my girlfriends grandma has been doing real bad lately. Basicly she is 96 years old and is on dialisys.(how ever you spell it). Well my girlfriend is black and jewish and it is her Jewish grandma and we found out that not only does she have the west nile virus but she also has pnemonia and they cant get her heartbeat to get stable. Well the point is she has a trust fund of about $4 Million to split between three children and 10 grand kids. Well the point is that she is still alive and some of the family members are already starting to argue over who will get her towncar. Man it is just sad that people are like that. Just really want to know if anybody else has gone through something like this and how did it turn out.
Thanks
Tx_Boy :( :( :( :( :(

[Vampyrate]

when my grandmother died, she didnt have a trust fund like that. she just had a house... that 5 other people lived in (all family members) every last one fought over the house, but none of them had the money to keep it. so this house that has raised so many children by the hands of my grandmother was demolished.

marriage may bring a family together, but death can tear them apart. sad, but true.

[Tx_boy]

I like that saying "marriage may bring a family together, but death can tear them apart. sad, but true".

[WytchDctr]

When my grandfather passed away my uncle started doing the "I want" crap before the funeral. I couldn't beleive the lack of respect. I ended up with alot of his tools... Ive yet to be able to touch them. Still sitting in storage. Ill get them out one day soon.

[BlackElantraGT]

hey man, sorry to hear about the situation with your gf's grandma. Unfortunately in times like these when death is hard enough to accept, often times it's what happens after the person is gone that is harder to deal with.

Being that she had money, she was probably smart enough to have good lawyers sort this all out long before her health failed. I don't think that it's just financial greed that comes into play. Sometimes it's an emotional greed too, where everyone wants to have the most memories of the deceased through nostalgic objects. It's funny what people will fight for, only to see that item years later in a garage sale selling for next to nothing.

I'm not sure how everything works in the legal system or how she set up her trust fund, but if one person was named the executor, I hope that person is the wisest and least selfish of them all. I'm sure conflicts will arise but I hope in the end, everything will be resolved peacefully.

[Tx_boy]

Thanks you guys on the remarks. I will keep you guys in touch on what is going on.

[Vampyrate]

I like that saying "marriage may bring a family together, but death can tear them apart. sad, but true".
ive seen it all too much in my family with deaths...

when my cousin in PA was killed by a drunk driver, everyone was after his car (turboed supra). he actually left a will, which was strange to me, being he was only 23, but he left it to me, and i was only 8 at the time... my parents took the car and sold it, used the money for college for me, which really didnt work out in the long run... but yeah.

but in times of marriage, thats when everyone seems the happiest.

[Roasted]

I've always been the type of person where I work for everything I own. When Christmas and birthday's come around and gifts have my name on it, I feel ashamed for some reason. Maybe it's just the mentality I have and the way I was brought up, but I can't picture myself EVER even slightly hoping that I would get someone's things when they pass. I never understood what drives people to set aside their mourning feelings and engage their childish "I want I want I want" attitude. It's pathetic.

[Vampyrate]

being the youngest of six, the only thing that i havent had to fight for was my life, so i am totally in the same boat as roasted on this one

[Tx_boy]

Well it took my mom 4kids and 2 merragies to finally get her masters and she did it. The whole time I was growing up she was in bankruptcy so I really only had the nesecities and just a little extra. Now it is just her and my brother and he gets everthing he wants but he still has to work for it a is appreciative of what he has because he knows how it was when I was groing up. Man to tell you what after everything is said and done with this me and my girl are going to get like 75-100K and a house out of it which will be reall helpfull but it sucks what has to happen in order for us to get that. Looking at my girlfriends life and what she has been through with her dad being black and her jewish side of the family disowning them. I know it does not make up for it but it really helps. Not quite sure what we are going to do with it but I have a friend working for a steel co. and they are going to be going public in a year or two and I can get stock in the co. at employee prices right before they go public which will help me triple if not quadruple some of that money and than I have another friend in Albequrqe, NM and he has inside info on when Housing areas are going to be built and he buys the land before the housing people do and let them build on it than when they sell the houses he gets a cut out of each one on his land and I was going to do that as well. long story short I should be able to retire in 10 years or less. We will see how it goes.

Update on Grandma: still not doing good and still has not been able to stabilze her heartbeat so we will see what happens.

[QuickSilverGT]

My cousin's are already fighting for crap, and my grandparents are healthy. Me and my other two cousins don't care, we were raised together and we love them to death, we'd give it all up to have them around for any period of time, but the one's that have immigrated here are just plain sleazeballs. What bugs me most is that its not a conversation that they'll have behind closed doors, they will literally argue with my grandparents as to what they want. I just think its messed up that they are all thinking about what they want from them and all I can think about is what can I give them to make them happy... so far all I can give em is a copy of my transcripts but it works.

[SuperGLS]

I think this is why I'm glad my parents are poor and have nothing.

Good luck with all that. I've thought about writing a will so that people will know who my video games go to, but that isn't something I've embraced yet.

[Tx_boy]

Well I have another update: They actually let her go back home now so she is able to be in her own bed. She still has a fever so she probably still has pnemonia but not sure what happened to the west nile. Her heart beat is still unstable and she is not allowed to be alone so they are rotating shifts so someone is always with her. The really sad thing is that they really dont even know what is wrong with her. You ask her doctor what is wrong and they are just like we are not really sure so it probably is just going to get uglier everyday.

[GrGaKC]

At least she is at home... Maybe then the quarrels will temporarily stop. And if it's ment for her to die, isn't it nicer to die at home, surrounded with people you love (and hopefully love you) than in some hospital surrounded with strangers?

[Tx_boy]

Ya that is pretty much the only good thing that is going on. When I visited her in the hospital she was telling me to get her shoes so I can take her home so ya she is happy now that she is at home!!!!!!!!!

[j0hnh0lmes]

when my dad died...had a large sum estate....they were fighting over his stuff in front of him 3 days b4 he died....it's crap and disrespectfull...I think those ppl should get nothing

[evan938]

really the only death that has hit me was my grandpa, but i was 13 when he died and wasn't around him before it happened. i was actually at 8th grade camp for school and got back into town and we went right up. i dont remember anyone fighting like mentioned, but then again, i was so young i probably wouldn't have noticed it.

i will say though, i really wish i would have known how bad of shape he was in so i could have gone up and seen him. i hadn't seen him in a few months before he died, and me and my mom were the only people who weren't up in cleveland with him (my mom wasn't because she had to wait for me to get home from camp to take me up).

[Tx_boy]

Well fella's grandma passed away this morning at 2:30 am. It was like an hour after the mortuary picked her up and they where already looking at the will. Well my girlfriends mom got an 02 Lincoln Towncar and 1 carat princess cut diamond ring that was her moms wedding ring. The funeral is on friday at 9 am and than next week they start dispursing everything. The trust fund is 4 mil. but we should get a house and like 25K (estimate). Not really sure what I should do with the money but most likely I will pay off some credit and invest it. I have a friend making good money in Albaquerqe, NM and might do that and hopefully reitire in like 10 years!!!!!! Well I will let you guys know what happens and any oppinions on what I should do with the money and maybe some investment opportunity I would appreciate it.

[Vampyrate]

im sorry for the loss. and i hope everything works out for you in the long run. if you ever need anyone to talk to, hit me up on aim or drop me a message on myspace:

www.myspace.com/mremokid

[Tx_boy]

fo sho good lookin!!!!!!!!

[metalfetish]

when my great grandma died she left power of attorney (along with a list of last wishes) to this woman no one in my family had ever heard of. She did not follow my great grandmother's wishes and sold everything, which was crushing because out of about $250,000 in total material equity all my family wanted was photos and trivial things, like a candy dish I used to eat out of when i was little with her when I watched t.v. it was really sad. I honestly wish our family had gotten even the chance to fight over things, because at least we'd have the sentimental things as well. I'm truly sorry for the way things are turning out. I hope everything ends up rational in the end.

edit:sorry double post for some reason

[paki]

im sorry about your loss

[RedScorp]

Families can be as tight as you get but when there's inheritance to be had, everyone squables over getting an equal share. It's sad yes, but it happens all the time.

[BlackElantraGT]

I'm sorry to hear that she didn't make it. I hope things will get resolved smoothly.

I know this is completely wrong, but for some reason I am picturing you saying "I'm rich *****!"

[Tx_boy]

I want to but I am not going to!!!!!!!!

[subvibe99]

I'm sorry to hear about the loss, but my question is how serious you and your girlfriend are? Are you in one of those pretty much married relationships because from what I've read, you are planning on how to spend the money her family left to her.

[Tx_boy]

We have been together for 4+ years. I have been raising her son since he was 2 and we also have an 18 mo. together so ya we are pretty much married!!!!!!!

[Tx_boy]

Well the lawyer comes back in town on Aug. 8th which is when they will delicate the trust fund. We also found out that her great grandparents own land in some hick town in Arkansas and it is smack dab in the middle of down town. There is a bank on the land which has a 100 year lease on the land which ends in 22 years. Well the land is worth a little over $1 million and when the lease is up they are going to sell it a split the money between 13 great grandchildren. Well we decided that we are going to buy a house that is in forclouser so we can make good equity on it off the back and we are going to upgrade the xd for a new Sonata. Right now I have some realestate investments in the works in Las Cruses, NM where me and my boy are going to buy land before they build houses on it and when they sell the house get a chunk of change out of the sell price. Hopefully that will let me retire and working and just do that but if all else fells I will stop working in 22 years.