Getting engaged, ideas needed.

[yamaha]

I'm going to be getting engaged before the year is out. I'm dumbfounded on way to approach this and where to take her to ask her. I've always thought taking her to nice place to dine was kind of a cheesy way. Thoughts?

[robs02elantra]

we can give you all the thoughts in the world, but at the end of the day, you HAVE to make it personal to her.

The way I did it was, I took one aspect of my proposal from our past together, one aspect from her life, and one from our future together. Turned out perfect and I made her cry (which was honestly my goal. That's how you know you did it right! No matter who the girl is)

[Cypher]

You're a braver man that I sean.

[moonlite5hadow]

not many of my friends are engaged or married, but the ones that are all proposed at the same place where they either a) first met. b)first got together. or c) went on their first date. all this assuming you still live in that same place.

[Keyan]

At the meet I was wondering when you were going to propose. I saw she had a promise ring on already, and trust me, you two are pefect together. Whenever I'm hanging with you guys, I can always sense the connection between you two and the trust. I'm very happy to see that you are letting us all know you will ask her, but we can't make the desicion for HOW you will.

[KeWLKaT]

If you want her to be happy leave her.










JK man, I wouldn't dream of getting married at my/our age, screw that, commitment aint made for such young people!

[SuperGLS]

I did it sitting together underneath the Cherry Blossom trees that surround the Tidal Basin in DC. I didn't want to do the whole on one knee thing. Are you trying for a surprise? Amy had already picked out the ring (and wedding ring) she wanted, but she didn't know I had it at that time, so it was kind of surprising but not really.

The view in the first picture and the trees we were under in the second picture (if I remember correctly).

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I agree with Keyan, Brenna is an amazing catch and you kids seem perfect together (and she puts up with us Hyundai dorks, BONUS).

[03GT]

Take her somewhere special, private and ya know "romantic". I took my wife down to a place called "Lovers Point" in my home town. It's a park on the beach in Pacific Grove california. She thought we were down there for a picnic dinner. At sunset I walked her down to the rocks where the waves were crashing just enough for the spray to mist us. I grabbed her hand told her I loved her and that I wanted no one else. I then took the ring out, and before I even got the box open and asked she was already saying yes. We've been married now for 11 years. Who says high school sweethearts don't last.

[PSUsouthpaw]

Take her somewhere special. Not necessarily a restaurant mind you, but perhaps wherever you first met or where your first date was. Be as theatrical as she would like.

I always thought that when I decided to pop such a question (someday) I'd take the lucky lady out hiking up the mountain, and when we got to the top do it there, overlooking all the countryside, and tell her that the point of asking here was so I could shout the good news from a mountain (assuming the answer was yes).

But whatever you do, make sure it is meaningful and deep between you.

[NY2002ElantraGT]

TOP OF THE EMPIRE STATE BUILDING.........

chicks love that **** from Sleepless in Seattle

[Doohickie]

Getting engaged, ideas needed.

Run. Run away. Run away fast!

Just kidding. Congrats!

As for how to do it, here's my advice: Do it in a low key way. Don't make a big thing about it. The day you proposed shouldn't be the story; the fact that you and she are getting married is the story.

I gave Mrs. Doohickie the ring on a hay ride. I just pulled the box out of my pocket and asked if she wanted to get married. She was geeked, but by the time the ride was over, she was kind of back to normal. We celebrated our 23 anniversary in August.

[bdiggy]

I opted for the restaurant myself but it's the one I work at and it was on the day we are closed. I had another chef come in to hook up the dinner and bribed my sister with free dinner to come in and waitress. We had an awesome quiet meal and then, right before dessert came out my sister turned on our "to be" wedding song and brought out the cake. My wife was puzzled by the music, but not suspicious and then my sis set the cake down on the table and started to walk backwards away from the table. My wife watched her with a puzzled look, then looked down at the cake and the bling caught her eye even in the dim light. I thought she was going to have a friggin heart attack and that was the only time i've ever seen her not be able to eat chocolate set in front of her.

[ArunSenior04]

Note to self, ask Brenna to marry me before Sean. Wear Puma shoes.

[evan938]

I'm going to be getting engaged before the year is out. I'm dumbfounded on way to approach this and where to take her to ask her. I've always thought taking her to nice place to dine was kind of a cheesy way. Thoughts?

just let me do it for you. trust me, it will work out better :)

really though, to be honest, i wouldnt even worry about it right now. i was talking to her about it (either when i was out this weekend or a couple nights ago when she called me), and that came up in the conversation...even she was saying even if you did ask her right now, it would probably be years before a wedding. id just save your money right now and give it some time to find a good way to do it

[optimoprime]

^^^+1 save and think. the best place to do it your going to come up with and by the time you think of it you will have enough put back to have a baller *** wedding with open bar and ****

[evan938]

open bar? i better be invited!

[BobMs_wht2k2]

Everybody is different. With us, it was a formality. We "dated" for about 3 weeks before we just knew we were meant to be. We had already decided a date after 2 months of casual conversation.

When I finally did it, I made her breakfast and brought it to her with the little box on top. She looked at me funny and I got on one knee in the living room. Not the most romantic, but it fit both of us.

5 years this past june, and I've never been happier.

[KeWLKaT]

Damn son, 3 weeks! You must really be t3h sexbomb Bob!

[evan938]

so thats the reason bob always seems so miserable. i would be too if i got hitched after a couple months.

[KeWLKaT]

LOL

Freedom FTW!

[BobMs_wht2k2]

so thats the reason bob always seems so miserable. i would be too if i got hitched after a couple months.

It was actually a year later, but we had it arranged before then. Azzhat. . .

Damn son, 3 weeks! You must really be t3h sexbomb Bob!

And you ever doubted it after the other night? ;) You kept screaming for more. .

[SuperGLS]

Oh crap, I'm scared forreal now!!!!!!

Back on topic please.

[ArunSenior04]

Im going to marry my wife in a supermarket. She's going to be in the aisles shopping, in slippers with rollers in her hair. Im a get on the mic, and break out the Brian McKnight on her.

[KeWLKaT]

Sadly my current GF likes the whole cheesy one knee thing so if she ends up being the one in, say, 38 years, then I'll ask her like that. I aint gettin married for a while!

[yamaha]

Thanks for the great idea's guys. Our first date was iceskating at PPG place and dinner at Zarra's. I think I may pop the question around Christmas time.

[TheHybrid]

Thanks for the great idea's guys. Our first date was iceskating at PPG place and dinner at Zarra's. I think I may pop the question around Christmas time.
If you could pull strings and get PPG like solo for a little......

Even I'd marry you.

[kennef]

Im going to marry my wife in a supermarket. She's going to be in the aisles shopping, in slippers with rollers in her hair. Im a get on the mic, and break out the Brian McKnight on her.

All Brian McKnight's songs are about crying over a lost love. You'd have to dump her and then 6 months, 8 days, 12 hours later, BOOM...drop some soul on her. She might not marry you but you'll be getting some that night from somebody in that supermarket. Guaranteed.

[ArunSenior04]

All Brian McKnight's songs are about crying over a lost love. You'd have to dump her and then 6 months, 8 days, 12 hours later, BOOM...drop some soul on her. She might not marry you but you'll be getting some that night from somebody in that supermarket. Guaranteed.

You are awesome for knowing that. Id break out the "Do I ever cross your mind.....anytime...I miss you." lol

[Frick]

Thanks for the great idea's guys. Our first date was iceskating at PPG place and dinner at Zarra's. I think I may pop the question around Christmas time.

When I proposed to my wife I did it when i gave her Christmas gift. I got a stuffed bear, and put the ring on it's paw. When she opened it, she didn't see it at first, but then her jaw just dropped and then I asked her.

Two pieces of advice.

Make sure that you have talked to both sets of parents, most importantly her father.

I highly suggest that you do it some place private. Trust me, she'll want to drag you around to show off her new ring to everyone she has ever met and any they've ever met.


Side story, when I proposed to my wife I was working in a town about 4 hours from her. She had driven down for the weekend because I had to work. After I proposed we went back to her house. For the first two hours she kept veering off the road. When we stopped for lunch, I asked if something was wrong with her car. She blushed and said "No, I just keep staring at my ring"

[mregt02]

A friend of mine told me once that it didn't matter where or how you propose 'cause as soon as she sees the ring that's all that matters, he even suggested that one could literally throw the ring to her head and it would all be good...... kinda true but a touch extreme.
I actually proposed after coming back from work, we were in bed (talking) when she was messing around with an elastic for her hair and placed it on my finger as if she was proposing to me. I then said I would never take the elastic off my finger, she then said I should take it off at work since my boss might think I was crazy........ Soooooo luckilly I had her ring in the night stand beside me so I grabbed it (she didn't notice) and told her that I might look crazy but she won't look crazy since she'll have a nice ring.... I take out the ring and propose right on "cue".

The moral of the story for me was that I didn't have to plan it and the moment just came to me; don't over-think it.

[SuperGLS]

I didn't get any permission because I'm hardcore. I didn't have any talk with her father until a month or two before the wedding. Haha.

[BobMs_wht2k2]

I hadn't even MET her parents. As a matter of fact she was keeping me a secret from them (for good reason, although I didn't understand at the time). She called them one night when I got home from work and told her mom that she was getting married. Her mom FLIPPED! Lots of bad things happened, lots of long nights crying (both of us) at the hands of that woman. But we got married, we're happy and her mom is quiet and has even admitted that she may have been a little "off" on her earlier assumptions.

[cobase]

I proposed on the beach on vacation, but it wasn't really a surprise. We dated for about three years, and lived toghether another two after that. She had already picked out (and bought!) the ring way in advance. I snuck it into my suitcase and as we were about to leave for the airport she's like "Did you remember to pack the ring?" Yeah. I should've proposed with a check to pay her back for the ring, I guess. Grr. Also my best friend proposed to his girlfriend on our wedding cruise.
But for ideas... you could propose just before a vacation so you have some time to celebrate. In public or in private, landmarks, nature settings... if you're pretty sure she'll say yes you can secretly invite other people to show up afterwards.