How have you broken up with someone in the past?

[ArunSenior04]

Post your experience with breaking up, and how well they have gone.

My story:

Me and this girl had been going out for around 3 years. When we both left for college we kinda drifted apart. Me in tx, her in MA. last semester we both moved back home to MD, but it seems we are drifting apart now. Instead of the bf/gf relationship, its been more of a good friend w/ benefits thing. We still hang out, talk, and show affection for one another, but it seems like we both haved moved on. I told her that if she ever needed me for anything, or if anyone ever hurt her, im there for her in the future.

Not really a drama story or anything.

I dont have any crazy stories.

[paki]

eh.. mine wasnt really a breakup where i took the initiative.. more like she did. guess that means i cant post it :( lol

and sorry about your drifting apart thing man.. really sucks

[Mr. Dan]

I had sex with her little sister's best friend. That pretty much did it. Man, I was an *** when I was younger. :)

[ArunSenior04]

I had sex with her little sister's best friend. That pretty much did it. Man, I was an *** when I was younger. :)

lol. That is funny. :abovelol:

[eLantrabumb]

let me put it this way. I have a really really good relationship with my current girlfriend, but the end of my last relationship... can only be described in to words (and a couple exlimation points) F#$%ing HELL!!!!!! just make sure your soon to be ex-girlfriend hasn't been secretly hiding her schizophrenia from you. haha. no lie it happened to me. Thought she was going to kill me. and the crazy thing is she dumped me, but then changed her mind, but when i said that i didn't want to get back together she snapped man. crazy *** thats fo sho. lates

[BlackElantraGT]

Guy: "I think I'm gonna need some time to myself to reflect upon things. It's not that I don't want to be with you, but I need my space at the moment to figure some things out."
Girl: (starts to cry) "I just want you to be happy. I hope we can still be friends."
Guy: (sheds a few tears to show empathy): "I want to stay friends too, but I don't know if I could handle the pressure of seeing you."
Girl: (still crying): "I just want to go home now." (cries the whole time you take her back home)
Guy: "I guess this is it."
(one last kiss) and she walks into her house.

3 days later....
*Ring* *Ring*
Guy: "Hello?"
Girl: "I just can't take this anymore! I miss you like crazy, baby! Will you come and cuddle with me?"
Guy: (enjoying his freedom but at the same time missing the getting laid part of having a gf)
"Alright I'll come over"
30 mins later.... the 2 of you are knocking boots
Repeat process every 3-6 months

[tharptroy]

pope style, ex-communication.

but thats not the way to do a girlfriend of 3 years.

if she's cool, just talk to her about it.

my girl and I are on some rocky times, but shes said that if I just want to be friends with benefits, that she'd rather have that then nothing.

[BlackElantraGT]

friends with benefits will only work for so long... in the end one person develops stronger feelings for the other, and if that feeling is not reciprocated, it's not going to work out.

[ArunSenior04]

yea, drifting apart does suck because itas not like we have a reason were going separate ways, we just are. We both have the idea that this relationship is pretty much over, but I told her I would always be there for her.

[jh0n]

Guy I knew was totally unfaithful, while fathering a few kids with this chick. They mostly lived apart, she had a house and he lived with his parents, one day she took up with some other older guy, and my friend went totally off the deep end, he`d spy on her, even went through her garbage ( I laugh even now at the thought of him doing it ) Eventually she took up with some other guy full time, friend had to pay child mantainence and was very bitter about it. Thats the worst thing about one of your friends breaking up, when you end up losing them as a friend cuase all they ever do for the next 10 years is whine about their ex, somehow directing conversations around to it all the time like this guy did. I like Homer Simpsons take on this: `Dear Baby, welcome to Dumpsville, population... YOU.

[o2coolchris]

My last break before I got semi-serious with someone ended in a classic way. This was back in like Junior year of highschool. I called her house, her mom answers. I ask if she's home, and her mom tells me no, and asks if i want to leave a message for her. So I tell her mom, yeah, can you tell her that i'm breaking up with her and that it was fun while it lasted? thanks. and then i hung up. Never did hear from that girl again, so i guess her mom gave her the message. lol. I was an *** back in high school... haha

[Leviathant]

Drifting apart's better than breaking up forcefully, really. Avoid friends-with-benefits, it might seem fun short term, but you'll end up with a longer lasting friendly relationship with ex if you don't go down that akward route. I'm still on great terms with all my exes - my first ex did my wife's hair for her wedding, another ex helped land my wife a part in a horror movie that she was doing costuming for - we're all buddies. It's so much cooler that way, I think.

Of course, there are the exes that I'm on good terms with, but don't go out of my way to talk to, as well... heh. But at least we're not on weird terms.

The last girl I broke up with, it was kind of cold turkey, took her a bit by surprise. I basically knew that it wasn't going to work out as we were, so I cut things short. We were still friends, until I cut my hair (it used to be really long) - then suddenly she didn't wanna hang out anymore. (Lame!) Glad I broke it off when I did :)