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Well, my Fiance went up to Rockford (2hrs. north) on Monday to meet with the Florist and Baker and Photographer, and Organist. She's coming home tonight. We were supposed to go together last week when I was on vacation - but $hit happens and she had to do it this week. Her mother took vacation to spend time with her and do wedding stuff. This didn't bother me much, since quite frankly I care very little about flowers, pictures, wedding music and cake. So here I am thinking everything is for the better.
Last night I was talking to her on the phone and she was telling me about everything. I was doing the "uh, uh, yep, sounds good, really" routine while I watched the All-Star game. She was telling me all the mavels of cake frosting and organ playing... Then she got to the flowers...
Now a step back... when we got engaged we wanted a small wedding. We even considered flying away and getting married on a beach, but she wanted her fparents and friends to be there, so we decided on a SMALL wedding in her hometown. Then her mother got involved.
Fast forward back to last night. She tells me about the colors of the flowers "uhhuh, sounds good honey," I say as Pujols grounds out. Then she tells me the cost... NEARLY $2000! FOR F_CKING FLOWERS! Now if this were the cost for all wedding flowers I wouldn't have cared. But she got the bouquets, boutineers, fresh flowers for every damn table at the reception, fresh flowers to decorate the cake, rose pedals to put on the desert table and all other kinds of stuff. The flowers are Roses (def. not cheap in October) and something else. Why did this happen? Is it because she likes to spend money- NO... it's because her damn mother got involved again.
The same reason we have a ballroom at the clocktower instead of the airport lounge for the reception. The same reason there a 3x as many people invited to the wedding as I wanted. The same reason we're getting 18 bajillion pictures taken.
Granted, her parents are footing a large portion of the bill, but it's turning into a full scale fiasco, instead of our small wedding. I can pull off a black tie event with the best of them, but that doesn't mean I like them.
I'm starting to get pissed about this now, but what can I do?
Comments?
Last night I was talking to her on the phone and she was telling me about everything. I was doing the "uh, uh, yep, sounds good, really" routine while I watched the All-Star game. She was telling me all the mavels of cake frosting and organ playing... Then she got to the flowers...
Now a step back... when we got engaged we wanted a small wedding. We even considered flying away and getting married on a beach, but she wanted her fparents and friends to be there, so we decided on a SMALL wedding in her hometown. Then her mother got involved.
Fast forward back to last night. She tells me about the colors of the flowers "uhhuh, sounds good honey," I say as Pujols grounds out. Then she tells me the cost... NEARLY $2000! FOR F_CKING FLOWERS! Now if this were the cost for all wedding flowers I wouldn't have cared. But she got the bouquets, boutineers, fresh flowers for every damn table at the reception, fresh flowers to decorate the cake, rose pedals to put on the desert table and all other kinds of stuff. The flowers are Roses (def. not cheap in October) and something else. Why did this happen? Is it because she likes to spend money- NO... it's because her damn mother got involved again.
The same reason we have a ballroom at the clocktower instead of the airport lounge for the reception. The same reason there a 3x as many people invited to the wedding as I wanted. The same reason we're getting 18 bajillion pictures taken.
Granted, her parents are footing a large portion of the bill, but it's turning into a full scale fiasco, instead of our small wedding. I can pull off a black tie event with the best of them, but that doesn't mean I like them.
I'm starting to get pissed about this now, but what can I do?
Comments?